We are not the average of the five people we spend the most time with. We are the average of the five thoughts we spend the most time with. And those thoughts needn't come from people in our life.
Our thoughts come from people we follow on social media, the books, podcasts, anything we consume. We aren't with people any more. We are with ideas, thoughts and identities. Pick wisely.
There are people who tell you that you are wrong. There are people that help you see where you are wrong.
Guess which ones are more important? The ones who tell you that you're wrong are the ones imposing their beliefs on you. The ones who help you see where you are wrong are the ones encouraging you to form your own beliefs.
Some impose. Others show. Some poke. Others make you more awake. Some show you how you are wrong. Others teach you how to be right.
Complaining has never ever led someone to a solution.
Complaining amplifies the problem. It justifies why it exists. Makes us feel the victim, the person subject to the miseries created by the problem. All of this robs you of your power. And tricks you into believing that you don't have any.
If you had to choose just one habit for the rest of your life, let it be of not complaining. And see how effortlessly you reach solutions. The real problem was never the real problem. The real problem was the compound interest of complaining.
